Opinion: I don’t need your permission to cut my hair.

For the past few weeks I have been itching to cut my hair, maybe I shouldn’t say itching and hair in the same sentence. I have been craving a new hair style. I thought about it often and I finally decided, I’m going to cut my hair! I’ll do another unicorn cut. Just a bit of a trim to get a few dead end pieces. I cut it and my curls sprung up much more than I ever expected! I didn’t have to search for spirals, I had to search for pieces in lack of! I was ecstatic and yet it still wasn’t enough. 

Well I’ve never tried CURLY bangs! That’s a whole new world of bangs ready to be discovered – and discover I did.

While searching through the folds of social media I came across a curly girl with the most beautiful curly bangs. I’ve cut straight bangs before, a couples times, and each time I have the same regret. I wish I looked good in bangs but it simply does not look good. I thought, well I’ve never tried CURLY bangs! That’s a whole new world of bangs ready to be discovered – and discover I did. I gave my new found spirals a shake and let my hair fall to where it naturally wanted to be. A good amount sprang to the front, this, I thought, is where I will cut my bangs. I’m not a professional by any means but I am not afraid to cut my own hair. I gave myself a dry cut with my silver sewing scissors and cringed as beautiful spirals made contact with the bathroom sink. 

SPIRALS ON THE BATHROOM SINK

“I Tried not to care – the truth is that’s all I could really think about.”

I looked in the mirror and immediately felt the guilty sensation of someone who is doing something they are NOT suppose to do. I took a step back and decided I will wait until I wet, style, and dry my bangs before deciding if I liked them or not. I loved them! They made me feel and look good. I tried not to care what other people would think or say but the truth is that’s all I could really think about. The opinion of others is a tangible sensation that can motivate to success or discourage to failure. 

No don’t do it! Your hair is so beautiful and long…”

I cut my hair without telling anyone because I did not want to appear to be asking permission. When I tell my friends or family I want to do something with my hair (cut bangs?!) I get responses such as – no don’t do it! Your hair is so beautiful and long.. – I appreciate the compliment but why does long hair equate to beauty? I’ve seen so many short haired curlies with beautiful hair and I enviously wished mine looked the same.

It wasn’t the desire for long nor short hair I was after, It was the bounce of a healthy curl. I’ve had people tell me don’t ever cut your hair more times than I can count. I wish more people would have told me instead to NOT straighten my hair! Though I’m sure through the stubbornness of adolescence I still would have cut my hair. 

“ I never do my hair for others I do it for myself.”

With this experience I realized people still give their unsolicited opinion on something that is already done. My response? Oh well! It’s my hair, my choice. I never do my hair for others I do it for myself. There have been times I regretted cutting or styling my hair a certain way and that’s all a part of the journey. My bangs are currently tickling my forehead and I don’t like the sensation but I do like the look. Will I continue to trim by bangs as they grow out? Probably not. On to the next. For more pictures of my curly bangs follow me on instagram.

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SCISSOR HAPPY

12 Replies to “Opinion: I don’t need your permission to cut my hair.”

  1. I feel this down to my toes. I’m soooo tired of hearing people tell me what to do with my hair. Is that really what defines us curly girls? I say no! ✊🏾

  2. Yesss….I love this article! I use to never switch up or cut my hair because I felt a sense of guilt – I had long, relaxed hair and it was conditioned in me to keep it as-is. When I made the independent choice of going natural and chopping it off, I felt like I was cutting off societal chains while I was snipping those relaxed ends! Now I do what I want because I love it, without any consideration of others’ opinions and it feels SO good! Love those bangs on you!

  3. “…why does long hair equate to beauty?” My thoughts EXACTLY! I can relate to this so much! There is actually a person who works in the department next to mine who has quit talking to me since I cut off a foot of my hair in May. Whatever. Most of the people who discourage cutting long hair have never HAD long hair themselves. If they had, they would understand how much work it is.

  4. Yes girl! Cut your hair because YOU want to. Everyone seems to have an opinion when it comes to someone else’s hair because of envy or a false sense of “authority” and never seems to understand why we thank them for their opinion but ask them to leave it at that. Do what YOU want with your hair because it’s no one else’s business or decision.

    Btw, I LOVE the curly bang look!

  5. I love your confident individualistic spirit. I can relate this post to so many areas in my life and yes my hair is included. Self love is the best love, always do what’s best for you !!

  6. I love your curls, AND your bangs (not that it matters what I think haha). More than anything though, I love your attitude. I can’t tell you how many times people discouraged me from cutting my “long, beautiful” hair which used to be so thick and heavy it gave me headaches. Do what makes you happy girl, and thank you for encouraging us all to do the same 💖

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